Why: I quit Facebook

Hear me out (long post)…as of 10-11-2013: I terminated my account from Facebook.

Call me old-schooled or out of touch but I don’t believe in that medium of socializing anymore. To clarify my experience with this: Facebook account since 2007-2008 range (can’t pinpoint exactly but during my senior year of high school 5 years ago). Therefore I have been actively using Facebook 5 years and NOT the games.

I am not writing today to persuade any reader’s personal view on social media nor to evaluate the entity Facebook, all rights reserved etc. These are my personal experiences with the site and what led me to depart from this fastest growing way to electronically communicate. Sometimes I wish I could better explain why should people should leave it too, but everyone has a right and reason to use it. There are possibilities of negative effects on “mentally healthy” people whether they want to test this theory or not. Psychologist and Sociologist could also probably see what I’m seeing. Don’t exactly have the time to fully research supporting material because this isn’t a persuasive entry 😛

5 Years ago I left MySpace to Facebook; only because my friends all went over. Therefore I guess I have “to go right or get left” haha. MySpace was fun to use in really expressing ourselves. Yes that site lacked Privacy but at the same time didn’t require even a real name to post. The pretty layouts, music, and fun apps on the MySpace was the unique way for people to interpret what we are trying to express. I can understand how it was hard to find people on MySpace at the time. Facebook at least tried to ensure all placed in a real name to be found. That was the first step to strip the uniqueness of expression. I personally never participated in some kind of name like “Mighty Trigger Mike” or “Princess Jane”. I’ll admit to using my rank from AFJROTC and the Army but that’s as far as I went.

Point I am getting at in my world of metaphors; Facebook is like school uniforms and MySpace was no dress code. That difference was the largest difference impact to most I closely knew. We all ignored this because it was an exciting trend to go to something new and trending. It was like a honeymoon transition. Infatuated in a new means of easier way to find people: we ignore the quirks or restrictions. Not only was your real name and birthday out there: it really started to profile your deep interests if one choose to enter them. I will give credit to Facebook having developed privacy settings better over the years for all this voluntary input of information. Most things can be private and hidden if you needed it so.

They way I express myself is not by restricted categories. You will learn little about me from knowing what books, movies, and music I like. My interests cannot be detected from companies and entities that outreach to me to “Like”. In my honest opinion; businesses were going to far with their outreach on how some can view your information once you “Like” or add their App. Its free consumer profiles and we are ok with that…I guess… In a entrepreneur standpoint ok, I see the benefit with interacting with real people about products and suggestions. Problem is that not all entities have that simple intentions on Facebook. Many want to make sure they can seen as a fun thing to interact with while it was originated to only be a medium of contacting people.

Many sources report Facebook as a billion dollar enterprise. Their gains is not only from investors, shareholders and mini games; it also came from strategic advertisements. If you have a company; you now can be assisted in outreach a lot easier, if you can afford it. To me, Facebook started with honest well respected intentions. I would have been more inclined to stay if businesses were not so involved in outreach into this social platform. It was as if commercials on YouTube, Google Ads, and TV were not enough. Let us insert ourselves in between where close relations intertwine. I saw that coming and not longer seen that as the same honest Facebook I used to know. Yes The company needs money to maintain its servers and staff, I understand.

We can all agree that the site is in pure profits and seeks to be the Wal-Mart one stop shop of any site. It’s video chat feature competes with Skype. Its instant message/mail feature: AIM, Yahoo, and MSN messengers could not compete with. Many businesses mutually partnered up so that you can log into other sites with your Facebook account to make it simple. I agree it was nice to one click enter some sites just by using my profile…at a price. They were able to see everything on my account for the most part (not private things like messages, etc of course). Point being we don’t see this invasion aspect for this convenience function.

I don’t have anything to hide: as you can pretty much see I spill my life onto Word Press. At least here I can express myself on a blank canvas. Not movies, books, personal views categories, etc. I am not sure who actually reads my long posts lol. If you got this far, thank you for checking me out as I pretty much diary myself online. Anyhow, Facebook has become a giant. Therefore they have locked in their audience more and more. I can’t stand to be in that uniformity of less expressions, personal info disclosures (there) and business outreaching. We all need a space to just interact with humans where its only about relations. Not hey! “see which products we have coming”: comment on which you like. “Like” for a coupon.

I am too self aware to just keep going and know these things are going on around me. It’s having the world’s largest influence in my opinion. I see many in other countries that are connecting into this American made entity. Businesses are loving that but probably won’t say so. Besides the expressions and enterprising sides of the site; there is the actual socializing I have to address. This is the part I say call me old schooled. Best ways to communicate with me is phone call, video chat, messages, instant message, posts, or IN PERSON. Many are distracted from that very direct way of actually reaching to each other.

I would love to know who actually knows my birthday or relies upon the handy dandy reminders on Facebook? I can’t stand being a contact entry to everyone else. Did my best to try to talk to old friends but they became to busy with one way communications. Everyone has a specific role they play on the site or mixtures. I’d love to explain them all but this is already 1000+ words. Socializing is a 2 WAY STREET PEOPLE, I give a “rats ass” what you eating, where you are, and what you are ranting about. Facebook is NOT twitter. People are checking in and tagging people with them. This further invades privacy to me on where you are going + doing what.

Love to socialize but keep me out of your tags. I don’t care for the world to be able to pin point I was at XYZ Park in Loserville. As cute as it may look, it invades my privacy of my anonymous roaming. If I ever owned a house; the hell I would post I was outside of it. Let there be a chance that was intercepted, robbers then know when to rob my house. If Facebook keeps going at the rate we are going of trying to be close electronically; let us know when to plug in and take the red/blue pill (Matrix for those that are confused). Back in the day it was fun to chat with people and find new friends because they were local in radius search. You can no longer find new people on Facebook.

Yes, I understand its suppose to be an entity for only people you know with their real identity exposed. How am I suppose to socialize when most of the 100+/- I “realistically” know become to busy to talk to me? Am I to be stuck waiting for the same old friends to finally get around to me? I despise that. I need to keep socializing and the hell you will not catch me playing mini-games on the site while I wait for you to get back to me weeks later. I remember the days on Aol Instant Messenger where people had to directly engage with you. Now its turned into; I’ll get to you when I can because I’m busy looking at meme’s and rants in my news feed.

The news feed for the most part turns into straight trash. Not only is there rants and pictures of what your eating; the role-players of daily philosopher, and people treating it like twitter gets old. Some have said that some like to post “fantastic” things they are doing to present themselves as a somebody. A someone who is engaging in “interesting things”. While the people viewing it may receive sub-conscious jealousy, resentment, or inadequacy’s of where they are at. People can post about their exercise and then feel negative to their own health actions. People can post about their loving new relationship while making lonely people feel more like shit.

Posts of anything better than what/where you doing right now can affect you unless…your brainless I guess. Someone posts about getting into a college; and here I am struggling with a minimum wage job retaking ACT/SAT to keep trying admissions doesn’t help my positive psychology. Of course I’ll be jealous and happy for others. No one ever thought that would occur but it does. People post pictures of amazing places they go or dine at meanwhile; I just go to school and eat frozen stuff. Hmm I don’t know but after 5 years of seeing stuff that I been seeing I’m tired of it. We are all affected by things that are electronic platforms.

I was never conscious about my body status till I watched TV shows, movies, and seen advertisements of what pretty people are “deemed” to look like. Sub-consciously I have been influenced to meet certain goals of my health because of things I see. I want to go after an occupation I would love. If that ends up as something that pays 45k a year but I’m happy so be it. Problem lies when I feel inadequate in comparison to my peers/closed loved ones. If someone close posts a new car they got, it my change my view of what I used to be satisfied with. While the greatest benefit is to keep close contact with people on this platform, take notice of that.

I was never in the business of competing with my close ones on where I’m at and doing with myself. Over the 5 years I started to re-evaluate where I was because now many I know are becoming established. I DO NOT want that in my head of competition. We are all on our unique paths in life. Having large income makes life easier yes but doesn’t alone make you obtain long-term contentment. I would like to say people that are doing the posting are innocently doing it so to let others know what’s going on. At the same time there are those reactions we sometimes don’t know will occur as explained. I want to revert my personal standing on this advancement of society.

Personally I was more happy with a simple flip phone. Now we are burdened with many models of smart phones that die WAY faster with its extra shh. AHEM I mean apps. XD I want to go back to the days when we went OUTSIDE the house to communicate. Remember the days of knocking on the neighbor’s door saying hello? Remember board game nights at the house and not those annoying game requests on sites. We are becoming closer knit that doesn’t allow outsiders easily; but businesses can reach us firstly… We compete to each other…I can’t do this anymore. Meet me in person or phone call me if its my birthday. I remember people’s phone numbers because I ACTUALLY DIAL THEM. I don’t save them; and harass people saying “Uh ya mang I lost my phone need numbers ASAP”.

Ha how technology makes us dependent than we think. I refuse to use GPS as well and because I don’t; I know where the hell I’m going lol. I don’t have money to place a bet but if something as giant like Facebook shut down, what would be the effects? would we start to think there is no more social life? Yes there would be bounce back but oh my goodness just ponder that for a second. If electric goes out: we use a candle or generator. If people become hermits onto electronic social media and you turn off the lights; what are the candles and generators to it? At least I pondered about it. I would know what to do. Instead of back up plans, I will reset into real person to person communications.

For me: Skype, Y-mail, Word Press, Phone calls, USPS/FedEx/UPS and IN PERSON will be the only means to interact with me. Sorry to all those affected by my account termination. Most of the 100+ won’t know I am gone till they need me…others won’t even find this post of mine. Sorry if I changed directions in life and prefer real human interactions that isn’t affected but all things explained above but NOT limited to. Word Press is the best way to really see who I am. Any who takes time to read through things I’ve posted and uses the above methods are worth more in my life. Keep people who matter and the ditch those that are otherwise. No use to waste energy on fake relations.

 

 

Good Bye Facebook. It was an interesting 5 years and life lessons on how to truly socialize. Good luck to all else who uses it. Hope you don’t get affected like I was.

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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Facebook

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OMG Jessie where have you been?

Good question.

Life has interesting twists, turns, and adventures. Some of which have distracted me from here. I do have great joy in this blogging process. I am not exactly an entertainer type; this page is more of a public diary of my life. It is quite fun to be transparent with nothing to hide. I suggest this method to all but some have employers to hide from lol. I had once said that I’d rather get hired for who I am, and not for what I’m not. Simple concept but it also isn’t fair that employers will Google your name just to see what pops up.

Since April I have been working often and doing random things. I cannot pin point exactly where I been but I will try to dig deep. Guild wars during the summer was my addiction that took me away from Word Press. I had enjoyed coming on here daily at the time but Guild Wars was a longer hobby. In the game I was highly focused on getting certain achievements completed and farming for certain armor pieces. Now that I have most of what I want with a side of burned out; I am bored of the game.

Guild Wars will always have a place in my heart. Life is developing fast for me at the moment and well; my priorities and interests have changed. I finally had an awakening. I am tired of being overweight, lazy, and isolated. Guild Wars had kept me in the house for thousands of hours. The beach was always a place of healing for me. I didn’t have gas money and I did have a bike. Therefore I started to ride my bike to the beach. I will expand upon the bike rides in another post.

Sometimes, I have noticed attention issues of staying dedicated to tasks. I would always start something and have trouble finishing. In Guild Wars after I started a Guild of my own:  I really learned about staying committed and until the end of whatever it was. The bike rides/exercising is a commitment that I will continue no matter if I reach my goals or not. The primary motivational factors of the exercise was not just for looks.

There were some health issues that popped up along the way I had to take care of. My blood test shown that I need to eat better and be more active. In my closet I had plenty of clothes that I could wear but no where near yet use. I also read many articles that talked about how exercise can boost mental health. Anything that can make me feel better I am down to try.  Just not drugs haha.

I also departed from my job. As for that situation I do not wish to directly disclose the events that occurred there but what I can say is that I got sick of all the conditions present and left. Once I had quit, I slept better, felt better, and was better. That job was very toxic to my life. It was the primary cause of my caffeine addiction that took 2 months to get rid of. Monster and Red Bull was my beverage at the time. It was one of the many things that made me in a bad state of mind since I was last on here.

Lots of side tracking does occur time to time. Once I got into the grove of things, I then learned how to time management well. In the last Month or so; I did encounter an amazing woman who swept me off my feet to keep my busy 😛 She is the sweetest person who has entered my life like an angel. That is all really I can think of that has occurred since April. I got lazy, game addiction, work made me tired, and bad time management.

I have not returned and will stay committed to this hobby.

Fake it till you make it

I have learned this method from a variety of sources. Some books have explained and The Secret discusses a form of it for the Law of Attraction. When you look at the process involved, it makes sense and is easy to do. Just do XYZ as if you already have it achieved and watch it come your way. This is not the same as “the watched pot never boils”.

To better understand what I am talking about I will provide an example. I been having recent thoughts on becoming a writer. At the moment, the genre of writing that is best for me is undetermined. Lets say my confirmed genre was into fictional writing. I will make stories not matter if people are looking at them or not.

The exact difference of people who have mastered something and those who are trying; masters perform comfortably no matter if you check out their work or not. Those who starting try to hard and are affected too much by interaction. There is a reason why big singers stay big and why small singers stay small. Big ones have been the same since they were small.

When they were small they performed with a mindset as if they were big. Eventually that mindset provided them a path to success. You can actually hear the difference in singers who try to hard. Back to the example of writing; if I become fictional, I would write the stories as if I already had a best seller to an engaged audience.

Remember I created with blog site without knowing there was a interactive community that checks out each other’s content. I may not have that great writing skills, have issues with making shorter posts that will attract more readers, nor do I stick to a certain set of content. Irregardless I write no matter if I am being watched or not, and that right there is the distinct difference.

Fake it till you make it…Dance to a group of friends as if you were on a stage. Sing a song to a loved one as if you were on a grand tour. Paint as if that painting is expected to be hung in the national gallery. Write as if your content produces best sellers. Law of Attraction is accelerated when you perform just like that. The Arts isn’t the only area this can be applied to.

Lets say my goal was to become a manager at a current job. I would treat each day as at the job as if I was already the manager. My presentation and practices would then make me a successful one because the mindset is already there. There is a difference of dumping a position onto someone and promoting someone who already possesses the mentality of management.

It really is that easy. Just try your best at what you do, as if mastery is already achieved. It makes a mold for success without you knowing it. I have encountered some bloggers on here that have this process on “lock”. http://anothercityurbanite.wordpress.com/ is a great example. She knows where she would like to be and is currently making content similar to desired destination.

“AnotherCityUrbanite” may not know it but is making a mold for success. When you do exactly what you would like to do now, the goal career will come to you easier. You will then attract in resources and people that are that destination you desire. It will become almost mind blowing of how the Law of Attraction will participate when you put in “Fake it till you make it”

This simple statement the post is about isn’t to be viewed as a bad thing when I say fake it. It’s simply doing that XYZ no matter the current conditions. Irregardless of there is zero feedback or 1 million fans. Do you best at all times since the start and by the time you finish; everything takes care of itself.

A MUST motivational watch: Kirk Nugent

This is my number 1 favorite video to watch on YouTube. There are different recordings of the same material at different shows. Kirk Nugent has excellent words we must all live by. Its not a matter of if you will think about what he is speaking. We all need to re-develop our lives to go after what is right. I choose not to live a life of regret and therefore will do my best for what I love.

A true passion is not a chore

When it comes to finding what you really like to do, its takes a lot of trial and effect. Some find what they love to do quickly while others spend a lifetime searching. I have also observed people going about the wrong passion they thought was the right one. Many situations can be given as example but when it comes down to it; a true passion is not a chore.

Anything that you love to do shouldn’t feel like a task. There are times when you try to do this said passion but you can be influenced by external factors. Some of these factors can be if you have tough job that makes you tired to work on that thing you love to do. In long term objectives, there are always ups and downs in the feelings about them.

I have been working hard at work because of some co-workers having to leave the country. This expended energy is taking away from my passion work of writing discovery. I confuse this expended energy as if writing is not for me and I run into writers block. What I fail to realize is that there is at least a handful of legitimate situations going on.

Many writers encounter the block more commonly than people think. One does not simply have ideas flowing all day everyday. Lots of it is imagination and inspirations base. If you are working hard in something else it can hinder that process. I thought writing was the wrong direction when that occurred.

I am glad that I remembered from the 10.000 hour rule is that it takes heavy constant flow of persistence to mastery. Anyone who has every done something great has experienced ups, downs, failures, and successes on their journey. If I am to fully confirm writing as a passion, I have to make sure that at all times this is never seen as a chore.

Passions are never a task to do. “Do what you love and you will never work a day”. I have always heard that quote but not sure of its origin. When I logged onto this site for the first time I never knew a couple items. There is an interactive community and wasn’t sure how people would come across my entries.

Most people who have created great success knew they were going to do something but didn’t know how nor how big it would become. Truth is I didn’t think this would be seen at all as I only intended it for myself and certain people to see. I am happy to interact with other bloggers on here. Unlike YouTube where you only know who watched it if they commented.

I look forward to long term writing in WordPress than I do videos for YouTube.

 

Law of Attraction: Blank Canvas

I have come to find after lots of experiences and teachings that I create most aspects of my life. Some like to believe that there is a defined purpose for us that we have to seek. Others think that whatever pops up first is the right thing to do. There are many that end up in situations they dislike because the law of Attraction is no biased to likes/dislikes.

There are many ways to come about learning the law of attraction. The Secret, dvd best sums up the general teachings to understand how it works. There are many motivational speakers that provide their own spin on how they understand it. It is basically whatever you think about, you bring about. Whether you think you can, or can’t; either way you are right.

When I look back at things I have done in life I began to notice that I attracted in all the said items. I am fully responsible to an extent for the recycling of the deep depression minus influences of MDD and GID at the time. It also blew my mind that I had directly used the process to obtain certain goals and not even know it.

In Air Force JROTC, all I wanted to do was become a top cadet. It was my main focus that was aided by a catalog. Everyday I had looked at the ranks and visualized what it would be like to wear them. It became a habitual practice of looking at the catalog and choosing what I wanted on the uniform. Sure enough after 3 years I became the top performing cadet and obtained everything I wanted.

It has been a while since I used the Law of Attraction as deep since high school. I know how it works but my mind was somewhere else during the healing therapy phase. I am fascinated on how life is our own blank canvas. Just like the JROTC and picking things I wanted from a catalog; life is the SAME thing. It becomes what I personally make of it.

If I so choose to live on the street, that will occur. If I choose to become successful, that will occur. Where ever the mind is at is where and what will happen. I have to re-invent my creative and attraction thinking to my advantage right now. Life is very short and I need to craft the rest to be the best of my experiences. With that in mind, I will visualize in text an ideal lifestyle I wish to attract.

My lifestyle after college is currently visualized to be a successful writer. I don’t know how my writings will be recognized during that time because it is the domain of the universe to know. My writings might be seen across a broad area of print like newspapers, magazines, news sites. I will go to other countries and write stories back home would like to hear about.

It some how popped into mind I wrote some books that led into great movies. The movie(s) that corresponded to these books were very much insightful with a deep plot that is much needed. These handful of books that led into movies then generated income that wasn’t small or extreme. It was just what I needed that helped me move into my dream housing, a nice car, and a strong savings base.

The dream housing is in a condo with sections that is all glass high above a city. The downtown is right at my doorstep at the bottom floor that has the energy of the night and the pizzazz in the day. It would have a nice balcony I can either soak in some sun or to ponder new ideas to write about. Going around this same downtown would help inspire me ideas on a daily basis for creativity.

I will find joy that I can comfortably work on smaller writing projects because the largest one enabled it so. Again the how is the domains of the universe. As a Libra, I am a social creature. I do enjoy my downtime alone but I cannot live life alone. My caring, loving partner I would do anything for resides with me. We make efforts to maintain the relations fresh on a daily basis.

Me and my partner go on adventures together. We will pick streets and just drive to see where it goes. To see what is around. Will shall spin a globe, land a finger on a random place and just go. When  adventuring becomes too much, its back to quality time back at the condo. We will have an “”open door” like mentality to make any social gatherings with neighbors and people we care about.

Getting married and writing resulted in everything I ever wanted. To love and be loved as well as a downtown habitat. I am not after big flashy things. Just a specific housing, successful writing projects, and a soul mate. It is my blank canvas and that’s what I will fill it with.

Now the question is, what will you do with your blank canvas?

Advice from Stephen King

As a new writer in a general aspect, this is by far the best advice to start with. When you read a lot from established writers it helps in your own writing. Learning how to write is one thing but also learning from the masters in the industry is another. It would be contradictory to say you have no time to read but only time to write. Mr. King said it also in his form in the video above.

On that note I do make an honest effort to read many postings here on WordPress. I need to observe more on writing styles as i am developing my own. Learning isn’t short term. Learning is a lifetime process that doesn’t stop. Well that is what it is to me and therefore I will keep seeking more lessons while I work towards/after my goals.

Wanna know what grinds my gears…

 

Being stood up as a general term of items. Listed but not limited to: bring promised something but no delivery, ready and being told a time but person arriving hours later, being told of a call back to hang out on your day off of boredom but no call back all day, arrive at a place a friend planned to meet you but friend says they are tired and cancel 30mins after meeting time. The list can keep going but the point is there. When people fail, they don’t care and you suffer.

Its happened a lot in my experiences. Not sure how to avoid being stood up because everyone does it to someone. Maybe I have don’t it to someone and not know it. Point is when I need to rely upon people, sometimes it never goes to plan. I nor anyone likes to suffer but still there are careless people out there that do not care. This has even happened in my medical solutions.

There was a doctor who made me wait 40mins because they office couldn’t figure out the billing. We cleared it up and he pops by and says want to reschedule without even doing any sessions. If you prescribe medicine; DON’T PLAY WITH ME LIKE THAT. It was highly unprofessional and I do not plan on staying with an office that cannot get their billing straight.

It would be nice if I can build a certain network of people and resources that will always deliver as a 2-way relations. I might have high rigid expectations but the examples above are just too much for me to take in. I guess we don’t live in a perfect world and to just be prepared if I am stood up over and over again. I never been stood up by a date and that’s the original term origin. Then again i been single forever and I am forever alone…

Get ready for my art skillz’

I am so out of the loop when it comes to copyright knowledge, editing, and original content. I have not received any notices on my small blog but I better be proactive and enlightened on the right practices to begin with. I am sorry that I didn’t realize how not so smart it was to copy, save, post any random pic that would enhance my posts. I am a newbie to this electronic writing interface.

I did come across people talking about certain domains for royalty/free use after rights purchase picture sites. I don’t have money for that at the moment. I also am out of a camera to take pictures. I Don’t even know where to begin on finding the legit sources about copyright and ownership regulations. My solution is that I will replace all content used with my own original creations. You will get to giggle at my superb art skills.

A successful page needs to do the right legal things from the start. I shall do so like Captain Picard and “make it so”.

Brown Man Beats! the cinnamon challenge

Uploaded on Feb 27, 2012

This is an old video of me when I was scruffy and bigger haha. 

I was bored and it didn’t seem to have danger like other not so smart challenges. I thought I would start YouTubing at the time but it didn’t work out. I shall pick up video making again sometime. Keep in mind I found out after the video I was suppose to eat it in less than 30 seconds but whatever I didn’t choke and spit up. Some intentionally did so for entertainment. The cinnamon didn’t affect me like other people.

Song in background is Jay z – I know. I do not own the rights to the song and I am not promoting or representing the artist nor the label. Video is under copyright warning and is only for documentation purposes. Song was not intentionally played during the capture of the challenge. It happened to be playing in my room I had purchased off iTunes.